the problem with the way spn is addressing sexism/misogyny right now is that it is creating situations and scenes for the express purpose of having a secondary female character smack down a secondary male character or for one of the leading male protagonists to roll his eyes at the ignorance of a one-off male character.
in other words, they are deliberately writing in sexist scenarios with which to hamfistedly subvert, instead of directly challenging the sexism and misogyny embedded within the narrative and its two leading male protagonists.
if we go back to s3, ruby saying ‘stop calling me bitch’ to dean straight-to-his-face is a proper example of the way to do it…it requires both dean and the audience to confront their own propensity for misogyny/sexism and unnecessary name-calling, and doesn’t uphold sam and dean as the paragon of male characters (who are sexist themselves ‘but lol it’s okay guys they stand up for women when there are worse sexists around!!’).
this is the problem with having a mostly male writing team because in order for them to see sexism they have to be so blatant and over-the-top about it, they don’t have the perspective to understand that sexism and misogyny exists everywhere, that they are an undercurrent through everything, that they are reinforced everyday by the microaggressions that women experience. they can only see the macro picture and tackle it on a macro-exaggerated scale.
I’ve been struggling with how to articulate the problems with how SPN is choosing to address the misogyny issue, and this right here does an excellent job of explaining a lot of it.
There’s also the fact that they STILL don’t seem to understand that YES, THEIR NARRATIVE/WRITING WAS MISOGYNISTIC. What they’ve been doing so far this season comes off more like deflection, “We’re not sexist we have female friends!” type thing, a patronizing hand-wave. The only thing they’ve made clear is that they don’t understand the issue.
Oh, they realize they’re being criticized, but they don’t get it. It’s like, when someone says something really sexist, and then you go “Dude, that was really sexist” and then they try to fumble through an explanation about how it really wasn’t sexist, they don’t hate women, and then they try to tell you what real sexism looks like? Yeah, it’s kinda like that.
And given the nature of the story, the fact that the past episodes exist as books in their universe, it would be very very easy for them to address their past sexism. By simply having female characters (Charlie, Jody, Krissy) read the books and take the boys to task (hell, they could just take them to task for their inevitable sexism in the episode). And I know Fan Fiction is coming up, wherein the boys go to an all girls school where they’re putting on a Supernatural musical, and potentially they could do that. But not only do I not think they will, the fact that it will be new one-off teen-female fan characters (and they never treat the fan characters well), I don’t think either the narrative or the bros will take them seriously. It’s different coming from someone they know (and Robbie could have had Charlie say something to Sam and Dean in Slumber Party but didn’t). But I suspect part of the reason why they will never have a non-evil recurring female character criticize the boys for their sexism (or for fucking anything) is that they think that will make said female character look bad, an un-fun feminist harping on the boys.
Because you know that’s more-than-likely what they think of us.